Conflict eats me from the inside and spits my guts back out like a pile of spaghetti. I avoid it at ALL costs. But, back me into a corner and I come out swinging. Which is exactly what I did yesterday…
I had a disagreement with a client. It got heated and emotional and now I am embarrassed that I lost control. I am trying to figure out how to move forward but I am not sure how.
The Apostle Paul tells the Romans that we need to “make every effort to do what leads to peace.” Romans 14:19
But is it really possible to set aside irreconcilable differences when so much seems to be at stake? Paul was writing to readers caught in social, political, and religious conflict, and yet he suggests ways of finding common ground even under the most polarized conditions (14:5-6).
According to Paul, the way to agree to disagree is to recall that each of us will answer to the Lord not only for our opinions but also for how we treat one another in our differences (v. 10).
Conditions of conflict can actually become occasions to remember that there are some things more important than our own ideas. All of us will answer for whether we have loved one another, even our enemies, as Christ loved us.
I know that I need to reach out and apologize for my behavior in the conflict and try to make amends for my reaction in the heat of the moment. At least then I will find peace in knowing that I did what God is asking of me.